I have created this page to try and give you the Partner, family member & friend a bit of an insight as to why we do what we do.
"Oh my goodness"
My husband / fiancee / boyfriend / partner / Dad / Grandfather / brother / uncle / best friend is a cross dresser !!
I don't know what to think, I don't know what to do, I would of never expected this from him!! I don't wish to know anymore, as in my head I have too many questions, but I'm too ashamed of him and embarrassed to ask him why???
"Lets never speak of this again"
"Woooh, woooooh, woooooooh"
Please Stop their. Your husband / fiancee / boyfriend / partner / Dad / Grandfather / brother / uncle / best friend has probably had this bottled up for years! even since childhood believe it or not. Just because he dresses it doesn't make him any different to the person you have known for years. You may have noticed it's all about how you feel and your feeling's and yes I don't blame you, it must be a shock. But when he tells you something he wants to share with you, the reason he has told you is because he trusts you, loves you and can't take the pain of lying to you anymore.
"But why does he do it "
I have asked myself this question a million times over the many years I have cross dressed , and the answer is simple.
It just feels right to him, and he enjoys it.
If that is a crime please lock me up.
I have given makeovers to a lot of guys now, all from different walks of life and religions ! I ask them all the questions you want to ask them, and they are so happy and confident in giving me their answers. Best thing is most of the answers I get are all different, which for me personally I find astonishing!
"Sooooooo, what do you ask them Jenny"
First for me is, how old were you when you first started to cross dress? From the majority I have spoken with I would say 70% will say from the age of 4 years old!! 20% in their teens the other 10% later in life. In fact the last client I did a makeover for was 60 years old! Even I was gobsmacked . His answer "I don't know why, I just want to try it"
"Jenny I want to ask him if he is, ummm, you know?
"Ummm No I don't know?
"Ummmm is he gay/bisexual ?
Ohhhhh right, because he cross dresses this automatically changes his sexuality ? Why do people put 2 & 2 together and make 31? but to be fair I can understand why.
My answer, once again from my experience , I would say NO!!
many guy's I have had the pleasure of giving a makeover have been married and straight.
I have done makeovers for cross dressers that are gay/bisexual but all have been single or in a loving relationship.
"But I still don't get it"
Chat to him, make him feel more comfortable, this will help you both, trust me I have been there! even if you are uncomfortable with it, I know its hard for you too, but times that 10 for him, its such a hard thing to do.
"OK, so why do you do it Jenny"
Mind your own blooming business!!! Sorry about that, years of that question. And you did ask me nicely.
I love women's fashion, I love how makeup can transform a face, I'm actually more confident going out for a night out on the town dressed, I only go out to LGBT friendly areas (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender) I have done the mainstream areas (Guy mode) and its always ALWAYS the same, I won't go in to the politics of it, but I do know, you know what I mean.
You will find the areas pubs clubs restaurants I have been, are always a happy and friendly environment , I'm not just saying this but its the truth!
The only time I dress is when I go out for a night out, and when I do a makeover, that's it.
"OK, so I will chat with him"
That's great and a start, please expect this though, you ask him why? If he says he doesn't know the he actually means that, he's not hiding anything, he actually doesn't know. He is still finding out himself and is basically asking you for help and support. Once again trust me I know this because I have said this myself.
You will want answers, but how can someone give you an answer if they don't know the answer themselves. Confusing isn't it .
I would like to finish off by saying, I have only commented on my life experiences and the many CD's (Cross dresser) Transvestites and transsexuals I have had the pleasure of talking to, and listening to there stories.
Although Transsexuals are completely different spectrum to what your husband / fiancee / boyfriend / partner / Dad / Grandfather / brother / uncle / best friend is. I could be wrong, I don't know it all and don't pretend that I do.
But I do hope this little write up will help you and your partner.
Talking is the key, bottling up is unhealthy for all of you.
Thank you so much for reading this, and I just hope it will give you just a little understanding of the BEAUTIFUL kind of world we all live in.
Jenny Wave x x